I’m embarrassed to admit how long it’s been since I posted an update for you all here. So, why not kick off my return with one of my favorite posts to write: My birthday post! Coming at you nearly 3-weeks […]
I’m embarrassed to admit how long it’s been since I posted an update for you all here. So, why not kick off my return with one of my favorite posts to write: My birthday post!
Coming at you nearly 3-weeks late – my annual birthday recap is so special for me to look back on. You can look back here: turning twenty-two, turning twenty-four, turning twenty-five, and turning twenty-six.
You might note, I skipped last year’s post on turning twenty-seven.
Pausing and reflecting on the past is something that can be extremely overwhelming to me. Especially if I’m reflecting on a time that’s challenging or still working through a conflict.
Last year, I was not in the “mood” to share.
So, I’ve decided to take this opportunity to reflect on the past two years (twenty-six & twenty-seven); the main obstacle I have of over-functioning; and what solutions and tools I’m using today – a place I feel is the best I’ve been thus far!
I just know twenty-eight will be the best year yet. Between my impending wedding to Matt and our honeymoon in Paris. But first a little reflection:
I would say I spent twenty-six and the first half of twenty-seven extremely stressed out. I was really trying to hold it ALL together but it wasn’t working. Running a small business during Covid was hard but transitioning that business into the “post-Covid” world with supply-chain, staffing, and price inflation was even harder.
At the same time, I was trying to keep the blog up-to-date with new content. All while planning a wedding (I got engaged at 26), volunteering in my community, and still being a good friend.
I had put myself in a corner of over-functioning.
I spent a good amount of time when I was twenty-six learning a break is better than a breakdown – whether you think you have time for it or not.
I have a big problem with releasing. And there’s a few reasons behind that.
First, I enjoy being in charge and taking on challenging projects. It makes me really really happy and I often want to see things from start to finish. Second, I can’t stand to inconvenience anyone. So, when I want to do something whether it’s planning my wedding or running Mr. Trophy I often volunteer to do it all instead of asking for help.
I worked really hard in 2021 on pondering the following questions whenever I felt close to collapsing: What has to continue? What can I say no to? Where can I pause and where can I ask for help?
Doing this exercise led me to add four new hires at Mr. Trophy! These new members of our team have been such a game-changer and a true blessing.
Currently, I’d say I’m still working on releasing over-functioning in my personal life, especially with my wedding and honeymoon in sight. I want to continue to release the fear of letting others help or get involved. I can tell you right off the bat, I dislike inconveniencing people which for me means asking for favors.
I also dread not being in control of anything image-based. My job literally is to capture the most aesthetically pleasing pieces of New England. So naturally, letting go of some of the control around aesthetic is a work in progress. But, I’m trying.
As I said earlier, I know this is going to be the best year yet! There is so much to look forward to and I wanted to share a few things I’m especially excited about in the coming year:
I’m so looking forward to all the special moments over the coming months. And of course, you’ll hear how it all goes in the end-of-year recap come 2023! Inhale, exhale – enjoying all the moments- it’s all going by so fast.
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